what is this ocd

I'm not quite sure why you posted this again, as I responded before. But it looks like you added the last part, so I will respond to that.

It definitely sounds like you have OCD. HOCD is OCD - they are not two separate disorders. Rather, HOCD is essentially OCD in which the primary obsession is about one's sexuality - specifically, the fear that one is gay. But it sounds like you have other obsessions as well (i.e. about germs).

The treatment for someone with HOCD is exactly the same as for OCD. I don't know what kind of treatment approach the psychologist you saw in the past used, but again, cognitive behavioral therapy is generally considered to be the most effective treatment for OCD.

thank you and i re asked the question because i didn't think you would answer the comment. Last question i read your thing about ocd and you said that straight people have anxiety that they are turning gay, and that gay people have anxiety about turning straight. Like this anxiety and ocd is making me go crazy like i cant even go one day without thinking about it its so bad. Like for example when i read that gay people have anxiety that they are turning straight the next day after that i got nervous that i was gay and then my mind was like saying im turning straight and im like what the hell, i am straight why is my mind saying this and i get so nervous because only gay people think that and i was straight my whole life. And like anything i hear about that is gay or something like that it plays in my head that i want to do it and out loud ill say no i dont.

also is it normal that i get dreams about being gay is it because thats all i think about the whole day and it happened 3 times

Obsessions are a primary symptom of OCD - obsessions are just as you have described; intrusive thoughts that constantly bombard your mind whether you like it or not, and it feels like you can't win because you are constantly second guessing yourself - that is the nature of HOCD. And that's why it is so disturbing for the you because it's relentless.

And yes, dreams like you've described are not unusual for someone with this disorder. Again, that is part of the anxiety you are experiencing.

I hope you are able to work with a therapist and start learning ways to manage these symptoms. They are distressing, but it doesn't have to always be this way.

thankyou so much i feel so much better but the only thing that bothers me everyday now is I get errcutions but not full ones when i see stuff that looks gay or think of something gay is that my ocd? Because i never used to get them for seeing gay stuff and stuff like that. My ocd is getting better im seeing a doctor soon and when i hear the thoughts i ignore them.

thankyou so much i feel so much better but the only thing that bothers me everyday now is I get errcutions but not full ones when i see stuff that looks gay or think of something gay is that my ocd? Because i never used to get them for seeing gay stuff and stuff like that. My ocd is getting better im seeing a doctor soon and when i hear the thoughts i ignore them.

I strongly suspect this is primarily due to your anxiety and the tricks your mind is playing on you. But, definitely discuss this with your doctor who will have far more information from working with you directly.

Is it normal that i cant get into lezbian porn like i prefer it over gay porn anyday because i never watch gay porn and gay porn is so much nastier, but like lezbian porn is okay to me i rather watch just one girl and sometimes straight porn this doesn't mean im gay or bi right, and last question why when i try to listen to my heart to see what my heart says if im gay bi or straight my heart said that i am bi is this my ocd and my mind because i know im not gay because i always flirt with girls and stuff but no im scared that im bi instead of gay now is this my mind playing tricks

If I do something it goes away but like I can't go without a day without thinking about it but it got a lot better like when I tell my friends what they think about this story they said that I'm def not gay and they say your the last person that would be gay and it makes me feel good that people say I'm straight but if people say I'm gay I get all nervous and scared

To answer your earlier question, it most likely is your mind playing tricks on you (rather than you being bisexual) - that's the nature of this type of OCD.

and can this ocd and hocd make me really think i am gay or turning gay, because these feelings feel so real. Like im really scared that im turning gay i keep bringing up my past and stuff that happened and i keep having all these gay thoughts since that picture that i say, do you think im turning gay or bi? or im straight and i suffer with hocd and ocd

You may need to read this over and over - and remember, no matter what I say, the obsessive thoughts are going to try to convince you otherwise - that's the nature of this disorder. But here goes:

Yes - HOCD can make you think you are gay or turning gay - and yes, it can feel very real because those thoughts are so persistent and compelling.

I do not think you are bi or turning gay; based on everything you have described I think you are straight but suffer from HOCD.

Also, I recommend you stop watching porn for awhile. I doubt that it is helping and may, in fact, be making things worse as it often just feeds the obsessive thoughts.

Instead, do something you enjoy that requires a lot of focus or energy. Regular exercise (aerobic exercise, like running, cycling, swimming, brisk walking) is very beneficial when it comes to reducing symptoms of anxiety (and OCD is an anxiety disorder).

Ok thankyou so much I'm sorry for asking so many questions this is the last one I promise I get like new thoughts and feelings everyday like when my mind says I want to kiss a guy I turn my head to see if I like it and I don't but like I don't go closer to the person I just turn my head like I don't go any closer I just turn my head and when I looked at my friends paper yesterday I couldn't see it then my mind was that I liked it and I went closer not cuz I like it but because I couldn't see the paper this happened only once wit the turning head too this doesn't mean I'm acting on it right cuz I never kiissed a guy and never will and now when ever I joke around wit my guy friends my mind says why are you flirting wit guys are you gay then I'm not like its a joke outloud then the one time I saw a guy and my mind was like o he's hot and then like I said it outloud and I was like what the heck am I saying this only happened once too also i get feelings for people i would never have the time to look at or care about is this my ocd too, and i dont no why but i can actually picture myself doing gay stuff but i can picture myself doing anything too

thank you so much for your help by the way sorry for wasting your time

No need to apologize - you are not wasting my time. That's why I'm here.

I wasn't clear regarding your last question, but what you described, again, sounds like HOCD.

okay so what i said previously you dont think im acting on it right

and is it my ocd and hocd making me picture myself doing gay stuff in my head, and i asked my friend about the story and he said listen to your heart then i listened to my heart and my heart said that im bi but im not attracted to any guys i dont get it.

My best guess is that all of this is due to your HOCD. But again, no matter what I say the thoughts are most likely going to continue to plague you because that is the very nature of HOCD. I don't say that to discourage you; rather to help you understand that reassurances don't "stick" because the obsessive thoughts are so compelling and very difficult to disregard.

As for "listening to your heart" - with all of the anxiety you are experiencing right now, I highly doubt you could "hear" your heart to know what you really feel, so I wouldn't rely on that at this time.

Now like everytime i see my friends and if my mind says that they are hot and if i go to talk to them about school and stuff my mind is like why are you saying hi to them what are you gay? maybe your are gay thats why your acting on it. Like i think about my past and the only thing that i thought was maybe gay was like if i thought a girl song was good or something like that i would be like this is a good song then my friends would say they like it too then i would be like in my head that doesnt mean im gay. Also when i was younger and still now i would look at some guys and be like i wish i looked like him and try to act like him and be like him. i never said guys were good looking when i was younger only girls but like i would no if a guy is good looking but i wouldnt say or think it like i actually had a dream that i met the kid in person and that he was friends with me

and like everytime i see something that looks gay i always look at it now and like it makes my face turn like red idk why this happens it never used to

i dont get it i get a new thought or new feeling everyday

It's the nature of the disorder, unfortunately. I really hope you are able to get treatment for this soon as it is so distressing for you.

i havent been thinking about this in days but now last night i had a dream about doing stuff with a girl but i can barely remember the dream but i no it wasnt a gay dream then i remember that i felt good and i thought i wet my bed but i didnt check then i had a gay dream that two gay guys were kissing i woke up scared and like grossed out then i woke up and looked to see if i jizzed but it was like dry so im guessing it was the dream from the girl, and like i rember when i woke up from the dream with the girl i felt like so good. Now im scared that i jizzed when i saw the gay dream but im 90 percent sure it was from the other dream. Now my mind plays tricks with my like ill keep thinking about a guy and then i told my friend and hes like do you like him i was like NO. Now everytime i think about a guy im scared and my mind says that i like him i dont get it. Now im like scared when i talk to the guy cuz hes my friend that my mind will say why are you talking to this guy are you gay? and acting on it ?

Hello Dr. Lane i have been doing so good for the past 3 weeks but now it just hit me hard yesterday. I was doing fine until yesterday I was at a teen club with my friends and I kissed this one girl and i love it. Then after that i went to kiss another girl and i was liking it until she put her tongue in my mouth it felt like she was choking me with it and i didnt like it too much when she was tonguing me. After that happened i had anxiety like why didnt you like it are you gay? Then i started to worry am i gay because i dont like when girls tongue kiss me? Then last night of course i had a dream that i kissed a guy and during the dream i was like what the hell am i doing, i didn't wake up right away but i woke up and was like okay good it was just a dream.

Hello Dr. Lane i have been doing so good for the past 3 weeks but now it just hit me hard yesterday. I was doing fine until yesterday I was at a teen club with my friends and I kissed this one girl and i love it. Then after that i went to kiss another girl and i was liking it until she put her tongue in my mouth it felt like she was choking me with it and i didnt like it too much when she was tonguing me. After that happened i had anxiety like why didnt you like it are you gay? Then i started to worry am i gay because i dont like when girls tongue kiss me? Then last night of course i had a dream that i kissed a guy and during the dream i was like what the hell am i doing, i didn't wake up right away but i woke up and was like okay good it was just a dream.

im back again, my thoughts were going good for about 1 month and now it just hit me back hard again. My anxiety just hit me back, the other day i was with my friends and this guy was there and i got a thought that the guy was hot then i was getting all nervous like i thought these thoughts were all gone its been so long. Now i started worring about this and like i kept staring at the kid like i dont want to kiss him or do anything with him but i dont know why i kept having thoughts that he is hot and i kept staring at him is this my hocd too or does this mean im attracted to him. Like i can think of my past but like i would do this too if a guy is good looking but i wouldnt think they were hot or sexy. Like im not attracted to any guys, some guys i admired like usually someone older than me i admire him because he gets a lot of girls and like i try to act like him and get the same clothes he has but i never thought he was sexy or hot just goodlooking the most, and i wouldnt want to kiss him or have sex with him i would just admire him and just want to be friends with him the most

This sounds more like HOCD thoughts - they have a tendency to pop into your head with things like "you think he's hot, don't you" and so on - just as you were experiencing.

If you were attracted to this guy you would probably have thoughts that were sexual or romantic in nature (like you do when you think a girl is hot, right?), and that isn't what you are describing.

As for your previous post about the girl kissing you with a lot of tongue - just because you didn't like it that doesn't mean you are gay. Everyone has personal preferences regarding kissing, and many people don't like it when someone uses too much tongue. Also, remember, you really liked kissing the other girl.

I hope that helps!

thanks dr. lane it made me less nervous is it normal this happened even when i was younger some guys i admired like usually someone older than me i admire him because he gets a lot of girls and like i try to act like him and get the same clothes he has but i never thought he was sexy or hot just goodlooking the most, and i wouldnt want to kiss him or have sex with him i would just admire him and just want to be friends with him the most. Like i would do stuff he would do to be like him. Like this one kid i look up to, like i admired him that i actually added him on facebook and i never add guys on facebook. Like when i was younger i did if the person got a lot of girls i would try to be like him but now i dont because i feel like its wierd especially if its a guy

hello dr. lane im back again, i have been great for like 2 weeks, but now all of a sudden out of nowhere i had a gay dream that my friend rubbed something on my private area i woke up all worried and i havent had a gay dream in a while because i dont think about it as much, that day i ignored it and got worried at somepoints during the day and i was fine, but last night i had another gay dream of two guys kissing. Is this my hocd? i no im not gay because im not atrracted to men and thinking of doing stuff with men is gross, and i just dont get why i get gay dreams sometimes is it my hocd ?

Yes, it is very possible that your gay dreams are due to HOCD symptoms. They don't necessarily mean you're gay.

another question, i was hanging out wit my friends this weekend and this girl that is upssessed with me from my school but i dont talk to her because she is really wierd and crazy so she came up to me infront of my friends and said hi then my friends were like why do you talk to her and stuff like that and now like my mind is saying i like her but i dont i dont find her attractive but the reason im getting really worried is because i had hocd about gay crushes which are fake because i would worry about it. So im getting nervous because i only worry about fake crushes with guys and when i like girls i dont worry like i just feel good instead of being nervous and thinking its gross like the hocd fake crushes

I was just wondering if other people have their brain tell you that "you are gay" out of the blue when you know u r not. It goes against my orientation and distresses me. Can that be an obsessive thought