why my fiance suddenly stop havin passion for me? he used to love me like crazy wat happened? is he mently sick?

Submitted by hala Wed 03/02/2011

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How fabulous are you that a

Submitted by mirasa70 on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 8:12pm.

How fabulous are you that a man has to woo you forever or be considered mentally crazy if he doesn't? Your misdirecting your aim here..you might be narcissistic and self absorbed. An irritable bipolar 2 as well. Or are you just insulting the mental illness community. Get over yourself.

im fabulous wether u like it

Submitted by hala on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 5:52am.

im fabulous wether u like it or not.. love its not about being fabolous
i didnt ask for ur opionion anyway seems u r so stupid to jugde ppl just becuz of cpl of words they said
r u a doctor to give ur diagnosis to other ppl?

just stay out of it

Hala, If you can provide

Submitted by Dr. Lane on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 9:03pm.

Hala,
If you can provide a little more information, that would help.

It can certainly be devastating when it seems someone you love deeply has stopped loving you, but it could be for an infinte number of reasons.

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Dr. Lane

i dont know we used to fight

Submitted by hala on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 5:46am.

i dont know we used to fight alot recently he told me he still love me and dont wanna lose me but he'll reconsidering our relationship
i asked him to break up but he said he want try to fix things out its been 2 month since he try

b4 2 month we were so perfect having that love, passion and caring and now suddenly stopped everythin
he said it might be the fights the reason.. plz doctor do u think its logic to continue in this relationship even knowin he dosent love me as b4? or its better to break up?

and i wanna tell u that 2 month ago he started a new job and his hours working been increased

i know him since a year and ahalf and since i know him every cpl of month he take sometime alone it coulkd reach to a month it happened 2 times in our relation

and in the past cpl of month he lost his scholarship to continue studyin in canada because he wanted to be with me

Hala, It sounds like your

Submitted by Dr. Lane on Sat, 03/05/2011 - 12:37am.

Hala,
It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want to break up with you, which is a positive indicator of how he feels about you. But, people's feelings can ebb and flow in any relationship. So, at times he may have stronger feelings for you than at others.

You mention two things that could definitely be impacting your relationship - 1) that you are fighting a lot recently, and 2) that he has started a new job and working more hours. Both of those things create additional stress.

While all couples have conflict from time to time, frequent fighting is very hard on any relationship. While you can't control his behavior, you can control your own. I would really encourage you to work on finding ways to not engage in a fight even though you may feel angry. It takes two to fight.

Also, I encourage you to focus more on your life right now rather than investing so much energy into wondering how he feels about you. Most men find insecurity unattractive. If you are being especially needy or constantly questioning his feelings (perhaps that is part of the reason for the fighting?), you risk pushing him away for good.

Although he is obviously very important to you, be careful to not allow your whole world to revolve around him. Spend some time focusing on your goals and dreams (ie, school, your job or career, hobbies, etc), and also spend more time with family and friends.

Give him some space. No matter how hard that is, it may be what he needs right now. If he really loves you, he'll be more drawn to you if you allow him to do it in his own time, without pressure.

As for being "mentally sick" - you haven't described anything that suggests that - rather, he sounds like he is experiencing some stress and maybe doesn't know what he wants or feels right now. That is not uncommon and happens in many relationships.

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Dr. Lane