i am a guy and i feel the same way as you. I don't want to go for the first girl with legs that wants me in bed but i also don't want to wait until marriage as you don't also. I think it is something that can be alot better if it has more importance than just a fling type of one night stand thing. I am also a virgin but have actually had girls ask me to sleep with them, i do not know why, but i have always said no. It gets kind of frustrating because i would like to try sex but want it to be with someone i care about. Lucky for me when i start to think that way i just go it alone and it seems to have worked so far. So veronica i agree whole-heartedly with you on your decision, and mine.