>> i was sexually active for 8 years before i had an orgasm with a partner. for me it was a psychological thing. after being with my boyfriend for several months and feeling very comfortable with him, i was able to orgasm. i have found that being on top helps promote orgasm probably because of the clitoral stimulation that occurs in that particular position. also, have you tried masturbating? you may have an easier time orgasming during sex if you find what is stimulating for you through self exploration. basically i would say feeling comfortable with your self and your partner will eventually lead to orgasm.