honestly, what you said about our sick fantasies... maybe you have sick fantasies, and thats what YOU want. but the majority of the ppl who suffer from hocd are not fantasizing. you have to understand that there is a difference between fantasizing and obsessing. fantasizing would be simply put, lying there thinking about holding a man, and sucking his penis perhaps. if you like those thoughts, and then brush them off and say hey i dont like that, perhaps you are in denial. that is what denial is all about.
on the other hand, people who just some how get things that pop into their head, and are like WTF? they know they dont like it, yet they cant understand why it wont go away. that is ocd, not fantasizing.
i hope someone can clean this up more clearly. perhaps straitye, or someone else.
please tell shannon the difference between a fantasy, and a obsession. because he or she does not seem to understand the difference.