Re: Another question about HOCD, please help


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Posted by maddmaxx on May 28, 2002:
In Reply to: Another question about HOCD, please help posted by Joe on May 28, 2002:
I think you are very sensitive to what you can feel when you are next to a guy.

The fear of feeling something brings you some feelings which imitate the feelings you could have if you were gay. BUT YOU ARE NOT.

The fact that you are nervous is the Proof...is a a mark of anxiety and so OCD.

You said :

"does all thoughts of sex arouse people?!?! cause i mean i dont know what the heck is going on with me. Before this entire fiasco everything felt so right as a heterosexual, now im in total doubt. "


I answer YES, all thoughts of sex can arouse people...IN the ask of the expert section of OCF foundation they say it.

Arousal is never a PROOF !


 I posted this a few days ago, im afraid that noone got a chance to see it, so im posting it again, could really use some answers cause they are bugging me big time. id like to ask that along with this question,

>>  In HOCD, whenever you think about being with a man, sometimes complete fright comes over me, sometimes i will not be scared because i am so determined to show that i am not gay sometimes i will have a deep inner thought about a relationship with a man, sometimes complete fright comes over me, whenever i get scared, i think I am getting scared because it must be arousing me, and this is my bodys natural reaction to homosexuality. Do you think it is possible that i am mistaking my HOCD fears with arousal? here are the rest of the questions i hope you can answer from a previous post...

>>  Yeah, i agree, the time that I am the happiest is when i think that I am heterosexual. Like you said hyper, i am also very happy, feel like i can be myself again, and talk to people normally, but when the worry that i am gay comes back......its like complete hell, everything i do i think of, Is this gay what im doing? Am I attracted to that guy over there? its awful.

>>  Question, which may solve some of my insecurities. in work the past few days ive been making sure i talk to plenty of girls and stuff to reassure me, and i do get aroused whenever i talk to some girls, or girls like talk to me and stuff, DO GAY PEOPLE DO THAT? I think that would be a huge answer to my burning question, usually i can tackle these things myself if i can find peace of mind.

>>  When i see a guy that i think of 'girls consider attractive' i even try to talk to them and see if that will make me aroused, and it doesnt, but it just makes me nervous. I am always nervous when a guy walks up to me, now in my mind, i think to myself, this must be because i am gay, straight guys dont get nervous around guys, and shit for the first 19 years of my life ive never got nervous around a guy, not until this worry started. So i am wondering if others feel that me being nervous is just the fact that when i guy is around im just so nervous that he will arouse me that it is making me nervous? did that make any sense?

>>  Third, in my mind, I get aroused by any kind of sex, if i fantasize about girl to girl, i get aroused, girl to guy, aroused. and until now i never fantasized about guy to guy, but in this worry of becoming gay i have tried it, and if it even started to arouse me, it would scare the living crap out of me, so i stopped. my question is this....does all thoughts of sex arouse people?!?! cause i mean i dont know what the heck is going on with me. Before this entire fiasco everything felt so right as a heterosexual, now im in total doubt. Please help!!

>>  Thanks...





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