I have major trust issues? I get very paranoid, anxious and sometimes feel sick of not being able to trust especially in my relationship. How do I deal with this? It is becoming a real problem!

Submitted by Mali Tue 09/07/2010

Submitted by mwilliams on Wed, 09/08/2010 - 7:20pm.

This depends on a lot of different factors. When you first meet someone, you really do not have any good reason to trust them. You do not know them, but as you get to know them over time and they prove themselves trustworthy, you can feel more confident placing your trust in them. If the person has not proven themselves trustworthy, then there is nothing wrong with how you are feeling. Your gut is telling you not to trust and you probably should not.

However, if this person has proven themselves trustworthy and you are still not trusting, then this is an issue that you need to address in yourself. If trust is an issue for you this probably stems from other relationships in your life where people were not trustworthy. You are taking that bad experience and projecting it on your new relationships which is not fair to your new partner. Talking it over with a therapist might be useful.

Best of luck,
Dr. Williams

—

Monnica T. Williams, Ph.D., Clinical Psychology
No Cost OCD Treatment: http://www.ocdproject.org

Submitted by Mali on Sun, 09/12/2010 - 9:12pm.

Thank you Dr. Williams.

However, we have had many talks on trust and he often wonders what he can do to win my trust. My problem is that I know he is a flirtatious guy and loves to entertain women. I am a socialite but I know where my limits are. I got to know him as this and I can't seem to get over it. I haven't seen him try. The only difference or change in him that I've noticed is that he tends to tell me where he is or what he will be doing for the rest of the day so that I know and maybe this gives me a little bit of peace but I also know that not all information is the truth or even the right kind of information. I don't want to know where he is, I just want to trust him and maybe that is just me but I have never really been this over the top with a guy. We live together and so obviously moving out is an option but I see that as running away. I guess first impressions really do make a big difference because even though he has changed, my gut feeling tells me differently.

Submitted by chimanpurboys on Tue, 11/16/2010 - 3:17am.

All these symptom of mind problems. I also have feel to these symptoms. But now i am in well condition and having a good life. Their is need to rest and a free mind. My perception is to this that take a time to fell different and better to go at a place, where you fell it.

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